The 31 days may be over, but it does not mean that we need to stop adding more joy and happiness into our everyday lives. In fact, it is even more important now than ever to do it. We got a glimpse at how amazing life can be when we celebrate the everyday, practice gratitude, dress for the day we want to have, and follow our dreams. I felt amazing during the month of October, even when life handed me some doozies. I cannot thank you enough for the kind comments, emails, text messages, and social media love. When I set out to write this series, I did it for myself as a reminder as to why I do some of the things that I do. Being happy and positive is not always easy, but the reward is so great that it is worth every ounce of effort. I am so grateful that you joined me on this adventure and will continue to bring joy into your life every single day.
I have felt a shift coming for a long time. I absolutely love what I do, but know that I have more to offer and give. I have been working towards my health coaching certification and it is time to open my doors. I am opening up one-on-one coaching spots for the fall and winter. I would love to help you find ways to juggle less, add more joy into your life, and live the life that you were meant to have. I am opening up slots for the fall and winter and plan on launching a group course in Fall 2014. I am so excited about this new phase and would be honored to have you join me. You can find more information and sign up here.
In the near future, if you signed up to have the series delivered to your inbox, I will be sending you an e-book version of the series. You can print it out and take notes are continue to add it to. If you did not, sign up below and expect some PDF happiness sent your way.
P.S. I love this picture, I debated using it because it looks a little dreary. But what it really reminds me of is moving forward and seeing where the road takes you. I cannot think of a more perfect metaphor for today’s post.
Dreams are a powerful thing. Even as children, we dream of things that are bigger or better than what we have or where we are at that moment. Some of us dream of being a ballerina or have a goal of seeing our names on the cover of a book by the time we are 30. Some dream of helping people or exploring the world. As we grow up, and experience real life, we can forget or brush aside those dreams that we had in 3rd grade. We push our dreams and goals aside because they are not practical or financially sound or seem unrealistic. We only have one shot at this life, so why not make it the best life you can?
Why can’t you at this very moment be a ballerina? You can take a dance class and have the experience of dancing in a ballet. Why can’t you write a book? In this day and age, it has never been easier to publish. Why can’t you help someone today? Volunteer at a local homeless shelter or Boys and Girls Club or carry your neighbor’s groceries in for them. Why can’t you explore the world? Book a long overdue vacation and go somewhere you have never gone before, even if it is the town over. Following our dreams doesn’t mean we have to quit our jobs or do anything drastic. Just taking a step to make some of those dreams happen can be the push that you need to move in the direction of fulfillment and joy in your life.
Make a list of your dreams and goals. Big ones and little ones. It doesn’t matter if they seem silly or are too big or too small. Write them down. Keep the list somewhere where you can see it every day. I want you to check the list frequently and ask yourself, “Self, what you are doing to move in the direction of making these dreams a reality?” You don’t have to have every single one come to be, but having the mindset that they are possible can sometimes be enough. You can do anything you want to do and be anyone that you want to be.
If you have a dream and want to see it come to fruition, what is stopping you?
For me, happiness and creativity are closely related. When I am feeling crabby or uneasy, I usually can pinpoint the cause as not having used any creativity in awhile. Creativity is a muscle, the more you use it, the stronger it gets. My creativity is a part of who I am, and sometimes it can feel like a luxury to use it. I am surely a “creative-type”, but even people that consider themselves to not have a creative bone in their body can find joy in using their hands and making something. It uses a part of your brain that you don’t always use and for me, it is the most calming thing.
It doesn’t have be be anything involved or complicated. It can be as simple as buying some flowers at the grocery store and putting them in a pretty vase. Rearrange your furniture or hang new artwork on your walls. Color or doodle like you did when you were a kid. Bake a loaf of bread. Sew, knit, or crochet. Paint. Write a letter or journal. Put together some cute outfits. Play around with your makeup and try on a new look. Go for a walk and bring your camera. There are about a million simple ways to get more creativity into your life.
Being creative or doing something creative doesn’t mean that you need to create a masterpiece. Or even make something useful or pretty. It is the act that is important, not the final product. Using your hands, getting dirty, being covered in paint are part of the process. Expressing yourself through your creativity is a release. Some of my best ideas about life occur to me while I am kneading a loaf of bread or editing photos. And let’s not forget, it is so much fun.
What can you do that is creative today? How can use stretch your creativity muscles?
I don’t remember exactly where I first heard the phrase, dress for the day that you want to have. But whoever said it, thank you, thank you, thank you. There are days that just call for yoga pants and a hoodie, no doubt. But unless you are sick or depressed, you need to put some real clothes on every day. What do I mean by real clothes? Clothes that you are not embarrassed to be seen out in public in. Clothes that show a sense of pride. Clothes that make you feel good and beautiful. When I dress the part, I feel the part.
Just this morning, I got up early, took a shower, put on a cute outfit, and 5 minute makeup. Nothing special or super fancy. Nothing that took more than 20 minutes tops – including makeup. I felt presentable and ready to face the day. Can I just tell you the difference in my self-confidence and attitude when I know that I look nice? It is amazing. I left the house to work in a coffee shop and kicked my to-do list to the curb.
I am hardly a style maven. In fact, I really dislike shopping for clothes. But I do know what works for me and what I feel comfortable, yet presentable in. I buy outfits that are simple and can be more interesting with jewelry and scarves. I have a “uniform” if you will that I can change up in a million different ways. I love makeup and am constantly changing it up. If you are not a makeup wearer, I recommend going to a make up counter (Bobbi Brown is my all-time favorite for a natural, put together look) and have the makeup artist give you some tips and show you how to do a super quick face. Each day, I use a little powder foundation, bronzer, blush, mascara, and lip gloss. That’s it, but I feel so much better as soon as I put it on.
Give it a try. Dress for the day that you want to have.
I find happiness in order. I like a neat and tidy house. I enjoy very little clutter in my mind and surroundings. I thrive when I feel organized and put together. It doesn’t just apply to my person, but also my life. A few years ago, my husband and I decided to get our financial house in order and let me tell you – it was not easy. It was hard to look at every bill and piece of debt that we had. The hardest part of getting rid of it (well, almost all, we still have a teensy bit) was actually taking the first step. After that, we created a plan, before we knew it we had whittled it down to next to nothing and felt a million times better about our future. From there, we tackled our wills, life insurance, and all kinds of grown up stuff that requires reading small print and the occasional lawyer. It brought me so much peace to know that if something were to happen, (and it will, that is how life works) we would be okay.
When I say to put your house in order, I mean to look at the big picture. Do you know all of your account numbers and where to find documents in case of an emergency? Do you know where to find a copy of your oldest child’s birth certificate? How are your finances? Do you have a lot of debt? Do you have a solid plan for the future? How is retirement looking? Have you started saving for college? If you lost your job, would you have any cushion?
I know that this step might not seem like fun, but it such an important piece of living the life you want and deserve. Having your house in order and making big decisions will actually help you be able to dream big and set new goals for yourself and your family.
Today, I want you to make a list of three things that you can do to start putting your house in order. Make a plan and take some action steps towards putting your house in order.